Its always more fun to play games in the shallow end than to tread water.

In the midst of a fantastic dinner party on saturday, the collective began a discussion of boys, and girls, attractions and distractions that cause for infactuation. The conversation generated types of the opposite sex that would best fit each member at the table, haters on past loves, keen interest on current crushes and relationships, and a general flirtatious cloud that floated over the table with a lovely aroma; but that could of been the salmon.

By the end of the conversation, lists had been generated for both men and women and what in the opposite sex each finds irrisistable and thus necessary in finding someone to love up on.

What does it take for a girl to like a guy? Well four out of five non aspiring dentist females say:

1. Confidence
2. Motivation
3. Independence
4. Concious Style - Not necessarilly a particular style, just the fact that you take pride in yours.
5. Love skills - that is as polite as I can put that.
   

Fair enough, I fit into many a category, gotta love progressive discussion with a point of reference sitting at the table.

What does it take for a guy to like a girl? Well two very under manned men at the table state:

1. Like Interests
2. Aesthetic Conciousness - You gotta take pride in your look and what makes you look good.
3. Social Independence - I have my friends you have yours, and we each need some time apart.
4. Trust - I keep girlfriends, no Im not cheating on you, yes they are hot and flirt me, but that means nothing.
5. Sexual Confidence - Theres nothing finer then a girl taking control of what she wants. Also guys are wimpy little chickens

So whats missing, are these lists shallow, or is it that in the most basic and traditional form of romance girls simply want a provider and guys want arm candy to show off? I think its the latter, and that this is completely ok. Gender barrier breaking aside, modern approaches to romance and a politically correct stance on norms of love, I think its compeletely acceptable for me to want an attractive and fun girl running along my side dipping into my wallet, and staying at my place for the week.

Its always more fun to play games in the shallow end than to tread water.

posted by mr. tomas ubik @ Monday, April 10, 2006